I've been dating a married (poly) man for about a year now. Friends with his husband (mono, and my Metamour) - who has been a champ about how things have evolved. For the most part, we practice heavy discretion about who we disclose the relationship to.

I'm more of an open person, but out of respect for the parties involved, we keep a low profile. We have shared social time, the 3 of us, on occasion. Yesterday was one of those times.

I was really proud of my boyfriend AND his husband, yesterday. He felt comfortable enough to start coming out to his friends about our relationship. And it seemed to go pretty well overall. Most folks seemed to just roll with it - maybe thinking that he was joking. But I thought, "wow, he's really trying to put things out there."

It meant the world to me, to have that kind of visibility, and for him and his husband to start coming out.

It can be really frustrating sometimes, living in a closet. And I think poly has its own closet for many folks. But yesterday, I got a taste of being more open - and it felt wonderful!