So my wife and I had a few threesomes and then we met a wonderful lady that kind of fell into a triad with us. It was an intense relationship for a year, and then we recently went through a break up. I'm still reeling from this, I haven't had a breakup in 8 years so it's an experience I haven't had in quite some time. Wife is doing a little better than me.

How do we know if poly is something we want to do again? We didn't intend on doing poly in the first place, so I don't know if it's something we need? But at the same time, it was really lovely at it's peaks, and maybe we would like that again. But the heartache is a lot to bear if it ends.

I know we need to have this conversation at some point. I guess what I'm asking is how do we know that the triad was only possible with this one specific woman we clicked with, and not something that we intrinsically need?

Sorry for the rant. Lots of introspection lately. X