I recently started dating a woman I'm very excited about and we seem to be clicking very well together - things are moving faster than I usually expect. I've never done anything besides monogamy but at this point in my life I'm very into exploring non monogamous setups. I know she's married in an open relationship but I don't know the details there. We're going on our third date soon and I feel I need to find out what exactly she's looking for from me so I can properly manage my expectations - like, is her current relationship prescriptively hierarchical? is there anyone else? are there limits on where our relationship can go?

I feel like it's not too soon to have this kind of conversation, but am I wrong? Are those questions too much? When do you normally talk about this kind of thing with someone you've started dating?

My inclination is to just ask what I want to ask when I want to ask it, but I'm just curious what other people's approaches are.