I've been dating a woman, Blair*, for a few weeks. We've been on 4 dates (slept together on the third), she's met my spouse, and I'm meeting her live-in partner this weekend. So far everything's been peachy :)

I really like Blair. She's intelligent, creative, witty & sexy as hell. We've only been on a handful of dates but I really see myself being with her long term.

& Blair has been very vocal about being really into me. She's always texting me about how she's thinking about me and how she really wants us to me more than friends with benefits..

So when, if ever, can I define our relationship? Do you define your relationships or do you just enjoy your partner(s) and leave it at that? This is my first poly experience and I'm itching to ask her to be my girlfriend. There's no rush or end goal, I'd just like her to think of me as a legitimate partner and not just a girl she has a crush on.