I've been calling myself ambiamourus for about 1month for the sake of a partner who I really do love and thought she would be open for a poly relationship(Like she defintely listed herself as poly) but said she wanted monogamy and would be open to polyamory if we both found someone we like. I've only very recently tried to open the relationship but she says she isn't ready for it because she says she feels emotionally blunted(She calarified its because of her hrt saying I didn't cause this ) I feel like if I do get the relationship open it wouldn't be ethical because I feel that I would unitentionally create poly underduress and or that I or her would accidently unicorn hunt someone. I haven't done anything to break bounadries Like I'm perfectly fine with any dating she wants to do outside of the relatinionship. I'm not sure if I really want to continue with the current relationship, I know I love her but at the same time I want to love other people as well...

I guess what I'm asking is how likely is it that if I bring up the topic again later(when she isn't under duress so I guess in another month) would it be able to form a healthy poly.

I would appreicate advice from somone who has had a somewhat similar situation before