I've been on many dates and the folks I gell best with and have bandwidth for something serious seem to pick ending things at coffee or after the first date rather than exploring till they find a better connection. (this has happened three times now each time I went on a few dates and then it ended) i completely understand that sometimes there's no spark but why would it fade on date 3ish. I feel like I would like a chance, wondering how to communicate I'm open to something more serious and ongoing in way that leads to something more serious and ongoing?

Update: for those who are being mean/ attempting to hold up a mirror, this account is almost all of the pit falls and pretty light on on the meaningful and successful connections built, I have maintained two relationships for 3 years now. Both with pitfalls and triumphs like any other. Recently feeling in prioritized because I've been listening and doing what they want. Here to be proactive and reflective. On that note, I'm autistic so I tend more twords blunt, specific things to say that are more diplomatic/ tips for reassurance are really appreciated