I met this guy on feeld app. We chatted for a bit and I asked his real name (his profile was just initials). He gave me his name which was different than the initial- had an explanation about using his middle initial. For reference, we’re both in relationships.

He wanted to hang out and I asked him to move to texting. At first he wasn’t sure as he said in the past he’s liked to stay on the app. But I told him I don’t like to be so private- my husband and I are very open about our situation and he obliged.

We met up and it went super well- we didn’t have sex or even kiss but there was a lot of tension. We’ve been sexting a bit and I like to use his name when I sext. We have plans to meet up later this week, and we’ve talked about involving my husband and his partner in the future.

I found out while hanging that he kind of has a high power job so maybe that’s the reason he’s typically private. He is quite kinky for reference.

I looked up his phone number and realized he actually has a different name (starts w same initial as his profile). I found his socials and he does go by this name (not the one he gave me.) Am I overreacting that this weirded me out? Via google search, everything else he told me was true about his job and schooling etc. Just find it weird he let me call him this fake name.

I know that this app and being non monogamous lends itself to sex-forward encounters, and I’m ok with that. But if I’m being intimate with someone, sending them photos, introducing them to my husband, I just find it so weird like how long was he going to let me call him a fake name?

Do I bring this up to him and if so how?? Also am I just crazy for caring so much about this? I was so excited to start seeing this guy and now I just feel weird about it