My ex and I broke up making their current partner my ex meta. I’d say we never really got close but we were friendly enough. my ex meta lives in a house that is very much a community gathering spot and my best friend also lives there so I was at their house a lot

While I was still dating my ex they approached me as asked me to let them know when I would be around and in common spaces, not a problem, except my partner and I break up the day they ask this request of me. A couple days later they replied that they would still like me to follow the boundaries they requested of me. I had no problem with the request, their reasoning just seemed off to me. I approached other people that live in the house and that we share community with about my being confused about the request and that it felt kinda personal. Everyone said that I was reading into it too hard and should just take it at face value. Cool. Ex meta hears that I approached other people about this and got upset and told me to come to them if I was ever confused about their intentions. Also cool. My bad. I apologize and we promised to have a more in depth conversation later when they weren’t so busy.

For a lot of reasons I’ve been desperate to get out of my current living situation and move closer to this mentioned community house and closer to my best friend, work and community. By how everything played out (price,location, accepted my application) the place that ended up working out in literally right next door to my ex metas house (also the house of my best friend) I honestly got excited at this idea, mostly that it was a place I could actually afford, live next to my best friend and be able to walk to work. So I signed the lease.

I told both my ex and ex meta about this about a week later, stating that I very much intend to uphold the boundaries that both of them asked me to and I was even open to me just not being around for a sec to let everyone adjust. My ex seemed not too bothered. We had many conversations about how because we share a community we were committed to staying friends, seeing each other around was gonna suck for a sec but we’re just gonna get through it. My ex meta… got so upset they told me I was a waste of time to try and talk to anymore and refuses to talk to me. They said I trampled all of their boundaries and that they are gonna set “very harsh” boundaries about when I’m allowed in their house.

This seems odd to me. The boundaries they placed didn’t at all seem to indicate that they would be upset at just seeing me around in passing, and like everyone told me to do earlier, I took them at face value that it was specifically their house and the common spaces within the house. As mentioned before our relationship is not very deep, there was nothing there to really indicate to me that moving next door would really produce an emotion either way. I’ve also been very vocal the past year about how I wanted to live close in the neighborhood.

I’m very open to repairing if they felt that I disrespected their boundaries but they flat out refuse to talk to me. I guess I’m just not understanding how this would affect ex meta so much. Am I really fully in the wrong or not realizing something here?