Dating is hard for me cause I am not only Poly.. but also queer, kinky, neurodivergent, and almost 2 years into recovery.. this causes my dating pool to be quite small..

I prefer people who are either also in recovery, straight edge, or at the very least actively supportive of my recovery.. I find it to be quite difficult because many people that fall into all these categories I listed in the beginning are also weed smokers..

This is made worse cause I'm in California so it's basically everywhere.. Weed was my drug of choice so it can be quite triggering.. if it's a once in a while thing, as long as it's not done around me I'm pretty good.. but if it was someone who does it regularly that's a deal breaker..

I also prefer to date people who are versed in polyamory/ sure they are poly.. I used to date beginners cause at a time I was one too.. but I'm not interested in teaching someone.. I like people who seek out knowledge and are very self aware

I do currently have an AMAZING kitchen table PolyCule.. I'm very happy and fulfilled in all these relationships.. I have been individually deciding with each person what we want out of our relationship.. and we do a lot of fun group activities/dates/ect.

Random extra tangent its so ironic to me that now that I'm clean and sober I find so many people who are weed smokers.. but when I was a stoner it was actually hard for me to meet other stoners 😂 like wtf universe why are you fucking with me like that

Anyway there is no point to this I just wanted to vent