My nesting partner recently came up with the problem of not seeing me as safe for her because I started two new relationship at the same time. Now she is pissed and hinted that she is not sure this poly setup works for us because of me. To me this is nonesense, we never have put it as a hard limit to not start multiple relationships/dating at the same time and we have hard rules on testing and being safe for sex and other things like flu etc. Other than her saying a couple of time that she thought I was going for quantity over quality she never put a cap. This topic of quantity over quality I don't agree with since I see myself saturated at 3 partners while she sees herself saturated at 2. I really don't get it and I am wondering if I am the asshole here and there is something I don't see in poly dynamics or relationships. I have time and emotional space for all my partners and I am not affecting my time or depth with the partner in question. Does anybody have had similar experiences? I guess I need a sanity check