So I have this partner that I've been seeing for over a year now and me and him are both Polly. However he lives in California and I live in Oregon. He paid for a plane ticket once for me to come up there and see him which was so awesome of him and the second time around I paid for my own plane ticket to come and see him because I didn't want him to feel like I was using him for his money. Well lately he's been telling me how much he misses me how much he really wants to spend time with me and I've been saying the same things to him because I genuinely do love this guy. Well however he just informed me for Christmas Eve out of the blue that he's in the same state as me which is Oregon but he spending Christmas with his other partner and family for a whole week. With me he would only see me for the weekend when I came to visit him in California and he will make me get up super early to fly back to Oregon soon as we were done hanging out. He works in the entertainment industry but he's always telling me that he's far too busy to ever text me so I only hear for him like once every 3 or 4 months but yet he says we're in a relationship. When I tried to tell him about how I feel I wish we could communicate more he tells me that I'm not being understanding of his busy schedule. For reference I'm 25 female and he's 29. I really liked him because we enjoyed the same shows and the same heavy metal music so I thought I made a friend as well as a lover. This isn't about me being monogamous while he's being poly I'm fully on board with being poly but at the same time I can't have help that my feelings are hurt that he would rather come up here to Oregon and spend time with somebody else instead of trying to spend time with me when we only see each other about once or maybe twice a year.

And yeah we got into a big fight while he was drunk last night and he was basically being so dismissive of my feelings and that's how I knew he was drunk because I have never seen him talk so crazy to me when I just simply expressed how sad I made me feel to know that he was in the same state as me but wasn't willing to visit me. And so I called him out on it I was like are you drunk and he told me that yes yes I am I'm just trying to enjoy the holidays with my family and my partner. That broke my heart reading that because he's someone that we exchanged I love yous and stuff