So I was just having this thought and wondering if anyone else has had the same thoughts. I opened a marriage a couple years ago that is now over. I wouldn’t have tried polyamory, but the wife wanted to try it so I said ok. During that time I have had a few hookups but more importantly had one five month and one ten month poly relationship outside of my marriage. I feel like poly has been a vehicle for growth, even though I have also experienced a lot of pain at times. I now find myself fully single and on the apps. I currently consider myself ambiamorous and say as much on my profile. Being willing to date and be monogamous greatly increases my dating pool and that feels great. But Im not sure how this experiment of maybe Im poly, maybe Im mono will work out.

My first poly gf said she was introduced to it by her previous bf. All her girlfriends expected her to go back to being mono once they broke up, but she didn’t. The communication was just so much better in poly world. My wife dated a guy with the same story. It’s like, once you go poly, you don’t go back. But I am really not sure. I like the simplicity of monogamy. But man, I feel like you really gotta be awesome for me to want to give you that. Do you know what I mean? Like, if we are poly, then I don’t need as many boxes checked. But if I can’t have other romantic relationships, then you better be all that and a bag of chips, right? And that puts lots of pressure on things right off the bat. If I notice anything off a bit, I will be way quicker in ending things. Have I tasted the forbidden fruit of knowledge and now I will never be the same?