Boyfriend vents about his wife, makes me wonder if he’s codependent and/or in an abusive relationship. Or maybe it’s just the effect of only hearing half of the story- I’m certain I don’t have the whole picture, how could I?

It’s been over a year and I’ve never met her so I can’t draw my own conclusions. And I kind of don’t need to. She’s not my wife. If this was day 1, I might decide that this is not the relationship for me. So much drama bleeding over and affecting me. But I’m in far enough, that I would find it very hard to walk away at this point.

Is there a boundary that I can create for myself that isn’t about controlling boyfriend or his wife’s behaviour? His marriage is on the rocks so it’s taking up a lot of his brain space. I get that. But it’s not my monkeys— is it impossible to date him while he’s going through this?

Edit:

Perfect. If boyfriend vents about marriage, I will end the date or conversation early and explain why. That sounds good. Thank you!