I really don't know how I feel. To be clear I am newer to poly. I've been talking to this guy for over a year (let's call him LO). We have been through a lot of life events together. I would consider him my best friend and I guess a lover. We both have feelings for each other. We've been intimate a handful of times and it was amazing. He also has another partner. We will call her BB. LO and BB have been talking a little less than us but over a year and are also long distance. LO made it clear some months ago that he was devoted to BB and he loved her. They have not physically met yet. I have asked LO a couple times in the past (it's been a good 6 months since the last time) what we are and I feel like I got very unclear answers. Basically he said he doesn't know and we will figure it out. This was before LO and I ever had any physical intimacy. It has been been redressed since the last time I brought it up. LO and I do tell each other we love each other and he tells me he does want to spend the rest of my life together. However last time I was there I felt like we really didn't talk as much and he spent a decent amount of time on the phone with BB. I honestly felt kind of ignored. I feel like I am a replacement for her because she's not there. I dont really know how to communicate this or even if how I am feeling is valid. LO is someone who I do want in my life and I don't want how I'm feeling to ruin everything. Please help