Hi lovely people,

Before I start, I know this is not anything to do with me. I'm just worried about him and I want to be the gentlest I can be with him.

So my nesting partner was talking about a recent date with his new girlfriend and he realised he was moving too fast for his own liking. They have an overnight date soon and he's not feeling any enthusiasm for it. He realised after their most recent date that he feels he barely knows her and, apart from finding her physically attractive, there's nothing much there emotionally yet.

I've tried reminding him that feelings take time to develop and to try enjoy what is there with them while they get to know each other. It didn't work and he now seems utterly unenthusiastic over going away with her.

He's fallen into the comparison trap. Our over 20 years of emotions and knowledge of each other is a lot of built up emotion and knowledge. He's not going to know her that well yet (perhaps ever) and part of me feels he's being a bit unfair to her.

I have no idea of how to be supportive right now. My meta is nice, a little quiet but sweet.

Anyway, advice would be appreciated. Thank you for reading this far