Hello everyone. I just wanted to take a moment to express gratitude for the recent uptick in positive stories here, as opposed to the vast majority of "I was poly bombed" and "My relationship is a disaster". Especially in the current world climate, the occasional shaft of light can really lift one's spirits, no?

I was, in fact, poly bombed a few years ago, and that person is now my ex spouse. It really sucks that we didn't get to grow old together, but I was absolutely not treated right. Prior to that I had zero notion of (nor interest in) poly, enm, etc, but I "did the work" to deal with this bombing. I can now honestly claim to be poly for my own sake.

Since then (actually since before the divorce) I had an almost year-long relationship with a married poly person which ended due to a cocktail of reasons including a mismatch in poly styles (they wanted parallel and were uncomfortable with me having another partner besides them; I was much more interested in something closer to gpp/ktp and definitely wanted to eventually have a nesting partner). We split reasonably amicably and still communicate on occasion.

After that, we come to my current relationship which is now also just about a year old. My partner has two other partners and we've all met several times - first time being for a board game night as a birthday event for our shared partner. As I type this, I'm on the train home from my meta's place where the three of them are playing their weekly Gloomhaven game. Before the game started, I just completed putting the finishing touches on some home improvement project I'd been doing (yes, at my meta's place, which he is immensely thankful for). Spending a night at their place, it's so marvelously undramatic for him and me to share a lazy breakfast while our hinge is still sleeping in. There's no drama. There's no jealousy. There's no desire from anyone for any further intra-polycule relationships beyond just hanging out as pretty good friends.

Of course, I'm still looking for another partner to eventually live together with, and that is predictably difficult. But I'm still hopeful I'll find a sweet person eventually.