Hey, wife (39F) and I (38M) embraced polyam 7 months ago. I'm just struggling to connect with anyone. I swipe and I text and I ask for dates but everyone ghosts me. My wife pretty quickly found a boyfriend and a girlfriend whom she's in love with and I'm just left alone a lot. I understand that women usually have an easier time finding dates than men. I'm left feeling, a little over the hill or not handsome or cute enough or not as sharp and funny as I was 10 years ago... I'm trying to develop the language of polyam & read and learn about this but she's the opposite and it just comes naturally to her. We struggle to communicate and she doesn't keep track of dates or time among partners. She has NRE and took off in the middle of the night after her boyfriend texted her.. I expressed my displeasure about this. I'm just venting and I know someone great will come along or maybe not but either way, I'll be okay. I asked my wife to be more gentle with me and to spend more time at home and she's trying and I'm grateful. Thanks for listening.

Edit: it's not just that I'm a man and she's a woman causing a disparity. there's things I need to work on to be able to be a good partner to other people. Also, I'm trying to get into the mindset of poly. I got very comfortable and honestly complacent with my wife and focused all romantic energy towards her and need to work on my own hobbies and interests instead of working 70 hours a week and staring at my phone all weekend. 😖

Edit: yes we have discussed boundaries and agreements. She hasn't maintained them very well, this is also a cause of discord in the relationship. I am not joking she is cavalier about it and has a very hard time articulating her emotions. She has a lot of trauma and anxiety and tends to ask for forgiveness rather than permission.