Last month I went to a play party for polyamorous kinksters with my two best friends, who happened to be a couple and polyamorous kinksters. I have also found out, mostly thanks to them, that I am non-monogamous in some way.

We were smoking outside and talking with another guest at the party, and explained to him that we often go out together as a friend group. Then my friends talked about how they met, and about how I knew one of them since high school.

At that point, the guest asked why we just didn't form a polycule considering I was especially close with one of them and we always hang out as a group. I explained that it was because I didn't really either of them as anything other than friends, and that apparently wasn't enough because the guest insisted that our emotional closeness would make everything easier.

I was a bit peeved, so I bluntly said that I saw my high school friend as family and a sibling, and that it would be like fucking my brother. The guy kept insisting that I should give forming a polycule with my besties a shot, so I had to triple down and add that I wasn't sexually attracted at all to either of my friends, especially the one I see as a sibling.

I dunno why I haven't really processed it, considering I talked to my therapist about it, as well as both my friends. My high school friend's partner said that the guest was probably just being shallow, but idk, for some reason I am still thinking about it.