I'm in a long distance relationship with my secondary partner, Andrew. Andrew and I have been together 2 years and seven months now. Andrew lives with his primary partner. I'm also in an ldr with my primary partner, but I'm not sharing his story here since that relationship is going well and is not relevant to the story here.

Andrew and I live in two different countries of the EU. We lived in the same city in the US for a year when we first met but we both moved since then- he to live with his long term partner and I for my job. We've now been long distance for a year and a half, of which we spent the nine months in two different continents and not seeing each other at all. Since January of this year, I've been in Europe as well. Since then, I've been meeting him about every six weeks. The only exception was when we didn't see each other for about two months during the summer because I'd gone to meet my primary partner.

Andrew visited me the first time, but since then, I've been going to his country. The reason for this is that I have a flexible job that allows me to work from home. Andrew doesn't. I also earn more than him. These visits have been about 7-9 days long. I either stay at his place if his primary partner is traveling. Or we book an Airbnb. Most of the expenses are borne by me- this is not something I have an issue with- Andrew has been struggling with depression which makes it difficult for him to have a high paying job (and I would please like the commenters to also not question this).

Our relationship has had a lot of bumps, including him violating important boundaries, but he's been very responsive and for the most part, we're moving towards a place of greater trust and stability. Our communication patterns do vary- I love texting, he doesn't. I've stopped expecting him to be a better texter and I look forward to our 2 hour call every weekend which have been nice.

I last saw Andrew for the last ten days of September. We had a great time, Andrew was very affectionate, invited me to activities that are important to him and we had the amazing sex that we always do. I returned to my city with very fond memories.

Now here's my issue. Andrew's primary partner is traveling in the second week of December for about ten days. Andrew asked me if I wanted to visit him and stay at their place then. I said yes. But December second week feels too far off for me. I have an assignment until Nov 22, which don't allow me to take Monday- to Wednesdays off. I was thinking that while I couldn't see Andrew for a longer time in November, I could visit him for 3.5 days until in the second week of November, so about six weeks after we last met (which is our usual interval). I brought this up with him. He said that I could just wait until December and meet him then and that way I would not only save the money for airfare but also on the Airbnb. He said we could plan something nicer with that money for when I visit him in December.

I guess the bit about saving money sounds sensible? But also, what place does being sensible have when you're in a long distance relationship and really want to see your partner? For Andrew, I'd just have to wait just about a month extra. For me, the gap of nine weeks seems too long when we're used to seeing each other at least every six weeks or so. I know that Andrew feels guilty that I'm the one who spends on my airfare and accommodation, but I've often reassured him that that's not an issue for me, I only do it because I can and because it makes me happy.

My question is this: does it make sense to feel some amount of rejection here? To wonder any Andrew doesn't miss me or want to see me as desperately as I want to see him? Or is it silly of me to fuss over waiting an additional three weeks? I will bring this up with him but I wanted to ask all of you what you think. Would be grateful for kind responses.