How do you all deal with break ups with partners? My husband and I recently met another couple. Things were great. We did a parallel play session a few weeks ago which was AWESOME.

Then this last weekend was my birthday. Had the couple over for what was supposed to be an over night. We were playing a sexy game. Things were progressing nicely, or so I thought.

The other lady mentioned she was not feeling as into things but was fine with being an observer. Then that changed and my husband went down on her (with her consent) while the other gemtleman went down on me. I progressed with the other gentleman to penetrative sex and then it went downhill from there.

She blames us for not being verbal communicators. She claims she was worried I was not having a good time because I wasn't saying anything. But I'm not a very verbal communicator during sex. I was having a great fucking time!

Once we realized she wasnt having a good time we stopped, got dressed and talked. Felt like things were on the same wave length.

Then in text she says she doesn't feel safe with us because we don't stop mid fucking session to talk about how we feel and won't even give us a chance to try to adapt.

I feel like she wasn't ready for a full swap even though she stated it was OK and didn't have any problem watching her partner with me. She gave him the condom for fuck sake! She said we were fine to participate without her but now her partner is saying he doesn't want to continue with us because he wanted it to be the 4 of us.

Fine. But let is figure it out, instead of fucking blaming us for your feelings. Let us have a chance, but no, they are out. I'm sad and frustrated and REALLY mad about getting blamed. She mentioned that she respects that we are all autonomous people but clearly the actions of her partner and I didn't 100% follow what "she" had on mind for the night.

My husband and and I are fucking crushed.

This whole experience has been amazing and we have gotten so close but now we are so crushed. So how do you all deal? Or maybe other poly relationships don't end so abruptly?

And we're really fucking hurt about her comment about now feeling safe. It 100% feels like she had a plan and it didn't go that way and somehow we have broken her trust. She claimed she wanted clear communication but she wasn't communicating to us clearly. Like I get, you have to process. That's cool, but don't fucking blame me!