I'm glowing about something that I never considered happening! I'm really close to my meta (of 2 years) but our relationship is very much platonic and not sexual, even though it's physically affectionate. Recently a chill weekend with our hinge (I've been with him for a decade) turned into a threesome that was truly intimate and sweet and in which me and my meta did not perform any sexual act on each other.

We did not see it coming at all but we all felt really at ease and it now feels like there's a further level of intimacy that almost makes this feel like we're platonic life partners as well, which makes sense since we're considering to live all together in the future, potentially to have kids too. So much so I am definitely considering not getting married anymore to my nesting partner who is also my fiancè (but of like, several years...we felt and feel no rush). I mean we can have a wedding party, but the legal entanglement on just one side would feel unequal.

Anyway, I truly did not think I could get to this level of compersion and closeness, and to give up so much hierarchy with time.

Has anyone ever had a similar dynamic? It feels really good to have something like this not make you feel more uneasy and like it's more complicated, but to actually make you feel more secure. I look at plans to share a home in the future and I feel much less uncertain about how to deal with their alone time while I'm at home, because I feel like the compersion level grew so much.