Hopefully the lightest vent all month on this sub, lol. And yes, I know the move is to communicate with everyone about plans and expectations and stuff, that is ongoing.

But AAAAAUGH. I’m going out of town with S/O for his birthday, for an event relevant to a shared interest of ours. His birthday falls on the Friday of that event. My long-term comet partner’s birthday is earlier that week and he lives in that city. And my community friend (we’re not partners but fall into that “I have seen you naked at the play party” category of comfortable lol) ALSO lives in that same city and has a birthday that weekend. We’re only going to be in town for three days!!

And like, I want to hang out with all of them a ton and give them a lot of attention, but just the anticipation of having to balance all of that planning on top of existing trip itinerary stuff is giving me a headache. Thankfully S/O and comet get along, as do friend and S/O, so a little overlap in scheduling is not world-ending. But I also obviously want to spend a healthy amount of separate time with each of them, while ALSO being able to get some time to myself.

Man, we really don’t talk enough about how hard hinging is, especially when you throw ADHD in the mix. I like doing it most of the time, but even when your partners get along super well it’s a lot of mental labor to balance!