My hinge partner (Aspen) has another partner (Birch) and me. It’s been difficult meeting lately. I see Aspen more often than Birch but it’s unintentional time. Birch on the other hand may see her once a week for some intentional time where they have time alone.

The week before last, I had planned with Aspen to meet twice for intentional time however she cancelled both times due to work being too busy. That was fine, I understood. Aspen had arranged to see me again last week. Following this her child was invited to a sleepover on the same day we had planned to meet (so she was free that evening). That day Aspen cancelled on seeing me that afternoon due to work commitments again. Later that evening, she told me she finished work and saw Birch. She knew I was free that evening and didn’t try and rearrange but saw Birch instead.

I feel like Birch is a higher priority to her and I’m an option. I haven’t said anything as yet because I don’t know what to think or if I’m being unreasonable?