I've posted before about some rough spots that have come up in my relationship with my nesting partner Ash. I'm trying really hard to reassure and show love, with varying degrees of success. She's not sure that she can be in a poly relationship with someone who tends towards more involved relationships as opposed to more casual ones. I got in touch with a couple's therapist with ENM background but Ash is not sure she thinks it is worth it so we'll see how that goes.

I've been thinking about what I personally want from ENM and I feel like it's not just my newer partner that is important to me; it's important to me to have the opportunities to make these kinds of connections in general. Granted that scares the crap out of me a bit but the idea of saying no to ever making a connection like this again also scares me. I'm trying to figure out how to express this in a kind and honest way.

"I love you so much and I treasure our life together. Spruce is also important to me, as is the option to pursue deep connections with people organically. I'm open to therapy, and finding new ways together to show my love and admiration and appreciation for you but closing our relationship isn't an option for me."

Is this reasonable? What have others used in cases like this that they'd be willing to share?