I made it to almost 40 years old without ever having been in a long term- long distance relationship. Previously, I wanted nothing to do with an LDR. I did not want to deal with the feelings of longing and missing my person. The weeks or months between visits. The lack if in person support.

And then I met Elle. Sure, we were at a week long kinky campig event, where connections were being made at an immeasurable rate- but she and I fell in love immediately.

Now, four months later, she and I are deepening our connection and committing to each other. We are about a six hours drive from each other. So far, we have been able to hang out pretty frequently, at least one overnight every two or three weeks.

And that frequency feels really good, however we are about to go six weeks between visits, and I am not having an easy go of it emotionally.

I have shared the difficulties I experience with Elle, she has some too, however is in a couple other LDR's and maybe... mire accustomed to the nuances of not being able to see each other often.

We are doing video chats about once a week. Those leave me feeling divided... happy that I got to see her and experience her, but longing for the things I cant have. Too hyperfixated on missing her. Last night I cried so much because I just. miss. her.

• for context, I have AuDHD and struggle with emotional regulation in certain contexts. I was only recently diagnosed but I suspect this is part of why I have avoided LDR's in he past.

I am writing today to you good people to canvass for ideas and suggestions on ways for her and I to stay connected between visits. Small or big, doesnt matter to me. Im just new to this and very invested in keeping Elle in my life for as long as we both make each other happy, which I hope is a very long time.