My ex wife and I were dating the same person. We divorced a month ago and just last week my ex wife broke up with the woman we were both dating. That woman and me had some hard conversations and while it sucks, admitted that being friends and not having a big blowout would be best for us to have a relationship in the future. I won't lie, I was toxic and clingy for a few weeks because I felt like I was losing everything, and it really hurt. The person I was dating admitted how uncomfortable everything made them and they blame themselves for the divorce. I've said many times that the divorce had nothing to do with them and that my clingy reaction comes from how much I care about her. She lives across the country, our relationship could never be more than long distant at this point. I knew that going into it four months ago, I accepted that fact and still do. Well the day my ex wife broke up with our mutual partner, the partner told me they need space now more then ever because of the text. I get the association with me, I can understand that completely. I'm just confused about the spacing, like I get no contact but there hasn't been that communication. She's someone who does retreat from the world, and I've seen that in her disabling social media stuff. I'm just trying to understand what could come next? Like I get no contacting, it sucks ass, it really does, but like I don't want this to be ghosting? I sent a drunk text and apologized for it to which they responded. I know I'm in my own acceptance phase, but I just don't know if this is the end for me and her, the person I was dating? I know to let her reach out first when she's ready, I just don't know if there is a point where I just reach out to check in? I love her dearly as a friend first and foremost, and I want to ensure that she can separate what has happened between my wife and myself from her own life.