So my husband (38M) and I (35F) were in a triad with a 25M for about 2 weeks. I only got to know this person 2 weeks ago, but my husband has been talking to him for months before we decided to form a triad. Both my husband and I were so happy and it seemed like our partner was too.

Yesterday he broke up with us saying he just wasn’t comfortable with polyamory, but wanted to remain friends. We’re both glad he wants to remain friends, but very sad about the breakup. I feel like I’m way more sad than I should be considering we were only together for two weeks. My husband is devastated, having known him for longer, he had developed feelings for him. Before the break up, he was debating when was the best time to drop “I love you” into conversation.

I’m not sure if we’ll keep our marriage open. I feel like this partner was a special case where we both really enjoyed his presence and could see a future moving forward with him.

I also can’t help but wonder if all the nasty comments online about throuples and unicorn hunters discouraged him. We were trying to form an ethical triad, but it feels like there’s so much hate towards couples who have a third.