Since my last post about Gerald I have taken y'all's advice. I broke up with him. I was probably going to do it anyways, but I did it sooner because of y'all. More importantly though, I was reminded about the importance of how to phrase my boundaries. There were a few people that pointed out how my word choice made my boundary seem more like a punishment.

It has been a long time since I practiced boundaries. I've been looking into polyamory for a year before I started this relationship structure, but there's so much information that I haven't retained it all. It was obvious to me that I needed a refresher on boundaries.

I rewatched the multiamory podcast episode that talks about boundaries, and then I had one of my DND buddies roleplay scenarios with me that require boundaries. I learn better by practicing things more than hearing about them, so roleplaying was the best way for me to remember how to correctly enforce boundaries.

I'm going to be more mindful going forward regarding my word choice when it comes to boundaries. I do appreciate how nobody judged me harshly about it. I'm used to people getting very pissed off in other communities when someone does something the wrong way (Not talking about polyamory subreddits, just other subreddits in general).

Thank you for all of y'all's input and for helping me become a better partner to anyone I happen to date going forward.