Hello everyone ! New to poly here, but have experience in ENM. My NP, Grey, has been a wonderful support to me exploring a relationship with Bleu, however…

I’ve been in a LDR kinda comet relationship with Azure, who lives in Denver where I’m from. Our connection has deepened quite a bit when Grey and I decided to be poly, so much so that Azure and I agreed to be in a comet type relationship, that is we live in separate states and have very individual lives, Azure has as they put it, a primary partner that comes first, but that we can mean a lot to each other, more than friends like before, but with limits on how far it can escalate.

Enter Bleu. Bleu and I started dating a while ago and things have really taken off, we enjoy each other immensely and we decided to make it official, in that we are in a relationship so now I have my NP and my boyfriend. Bleu has experience with polyamory and gets along well with Grey, Bleu is currently on a date with someone else and I’m excited to hear how it goes for him 😁😁😁

I excitedly told Azure about Bleu, and since then, has been avoiding talking to me. I asked them if I did something to upset them and they assured me that they are happy for me, but that they were hurt by me escalating with Bleu and not them, as the only thing standing in the way of our relationship is the distance between us, in their view. I was confused by this as our relationship was specifically limited by their own terms, for reasons not related to our distance and now I’m confused and wondering if I did something wrong.

Grey and Bleu say they don’t think I did anything wrong, but I can’t help but wonder as I am new to polyamory.

What do you beautiful people think ?

Thanks for reading !