Yeah you can already tell I’m new to this by how bad I worded things.

My Gf wants to be polyamorous and I’m down to put in the work for that.

I love my gf so much. They ground me, heal me, is my partner in crime, and are truly incredible. I’m so lucky to even have this and now on top of this, I get a chance to explore polyamory with them!!

But it made me realize…I don’t want a homebody.

I love traveling, love exploring life’s opportunities, hanging out with friends, I love parties, and making sure my life is full of memories and moments-

And my gf isn’t very people prone as I am. When I was listing off future wants or dynamics in general, I noticed that they were very homebody. They like having their own time, hated parties and too loud things, prefers playing just dance instead of dancing in a jazz bar, wanted to do gaming stuff instead of outdoorsy stuff, preferred cats over dog- You get my point.

And that’s cool! I actually fell for them more and am definitely loving the orange cat TikToks they send me hehe.

But if I find someone that is outgoing, go getter, would want to go to the gym and walks with me just for the fun of it, dance the night away in the rain, go to big events with me, and just be my ‘If you’re there, let’s do it’ kinda person…how would I even explain that although I love just dance show downs and cuddling by the fire, I also love being loved publicly which I know my gf prefers to stay off of social media.

I dunno, maybe it’s my accidental mono mindset coming through. I want to understand my needs better. I love my gf but I also know she won’t ever fulfill that need/want of mine, and I’m okay with that because I literally came into this relationship being ready to let those needs go. But being polyamorous…is it okay to date someone that is the opposite of my current partner??