Figured I’d post this and see what others would think. So I have a very romantic long distance partner. We haven’t seen each other in a long time due to financial, and mental health reasons which has been pretty tough on both of us and I’ve struggled a good bit feeling really connected. Recently found out they had made a friend which has evolved into more and I’ve had a tough time working through my feelings. I very much don’t want to do anything that might seem like I’m trying to restrict them and I am happy they found someone to connect with as we both struggle in that aspect sometimes. What’s been bothering me is I wasn’t told until I had mentioned getting a phone number of someone I was slightly interested in and it kind of felt wrong to just be finding out they were talking to this person for months and I had no clue. We have agreements on communicating milestones like escalation and I don’t know how long it’s been since this escalation began so I could be overthinking the situation but I’ve been working really hard to get us back to a place of security and I’ve noticed our communication has dropped significantly in the last few months which has left me feeling a little left behind and blindsided by the whole thing.