Note: I’m feeling quite salty and just need to get it off my chest. Feel free to provide feedback, but I’m here to vent.

So my NP has recently come home from a 4 week trip to see his other partner. And hits me up with wanting to have a baby with other partner.

Not entirely unexpected, but not something I really want because I’m just not that keen on kids. But the approach was pretty reasonable, not expecting me to be super excited to join a parenting journey and with room to be involved to the extent I’m comfortable with. So my response is along the lines of, “I love that for you two”.

It’s impractical AF, because other partner is located in a different country for which NP and myself would have a difficult time getting a visa for, but that’s a thing we’re actively trying to solve for right now.

So one of the possibilities to sort the visa issue and get the baby business off the ground is for me and NP to get divorced and for NP to pursue a fiancé visa. So I float that idea. It’s not excellent, because I wouldn’t have a visa solution, but at the moment we have 0/2 visa solutions, and this would get us to 1/2 visa solutions.

Like there’s a loose 5 year timeline on the current plan for getting visas for the both of us. But the whole baby thing speeds up the timeline and increases the pressure to succeed at getting visas sorted, so I think it’s legit to consider the more creative and certainly more reliable option.

The bit where I’m salty is that NP and meta are reacting like I’m suggesting some outrageous deescalation when I just see it as a practical solution. And NP call me ‘unempathetic’ for being miffed at this reaction.

Like, motherfucker, I’m chill with the whole baby thing, and you’re reacting to changing some documents?