My (F40 ) partner (M50 ) broke off something with a new person recently. He was turned off by her chaotic lifestyle and didn't want to babysit another drunken mess. Ghosting sucks so he ponied up the courage and called her to say his piece - a prepared script and then ended the call. The script he wrote out kept him on task and he was compassionate but firm. They were still at the getting-to-know-you phase so I thought she'd be like "oh ok no harm then." I was wrong. She keeps asking him why in text messages and trying to force further conversation for closure. As if her alcohol abuse and risky behavior aren't /that/ chaotic. Girl, take the L. You didn't even hook up yet. It wasn't that serious!

ETA: Me and partner have been together for 15 years, ENM for 8. We date separately and have grown quite a lot over the years. We have responsibilities and are too old for this kind of nonsense. I was not involved in any of their conversations - just informed. Thanks.