I'm glad they're occassional for you but they aren't for me. I get them quite often. And no, I'm not uncomfortable. I don't know why you're assuming things, but alright. Hope it made you feel better? Ending this conversation now.

I'm not looking for another partner right now is part of it, just casual flirting and fun. But I know some guys think/assume we want a threesome? That's one thing I hate being asked. 'Do all of you sleep together? Are the guys dating each other?' I face palm so hard. Like yes totally every poly dynamic is the exact same and we all do the same stuff because somehow all our partners share one brain cell and agree on everything. BRUHHH.

So there's that issue. D:

yeah that was part of my worry was weirding the other person out. I am in TX and I've had peple ask about my relationship and look at me crazy for talking about it or giving a disgusted look....like they don't need to accept it, IDC if they do esp as a stranger, but don't be rude?? Or they wanna 'know more' and then get disgusted. :') why ask then.

Yeah my partners don't care. I just also worry the other person will be uncomfy. I've even had men on dating apps tell me they're not comfortable sleeping with me despite us being completely open and understanding. Which is fine, but still that's not my goal...making anyone uncomfortable.

I don't mean out on a date or something, that kind of goes without saying...I don't even recall saying that.

I'm away at college, so he is usually with me at the library and places like that besides class on campus. Of course if it's a date my focus is on him, we don't even have our phones out then. Same for running errands, etc.

too many people get upset with using primary/secondary, it's happened to me before. they're bothered by the 'hierarchal' thing but it doesn't bother us.