My nesting/primary partner and I have been together a little under four years. During that time we have grown as individuals and as a couple, while navigating the turbulence of family and general life.

However with that growth my needs have changed, and while my love and care for my partner has never faltered, my place as primary has become uncomfortable.

I love being nesting partners, having her as my companion, best friend, and lover. But perhaps due to my natural nature as a cuckold, along with my bisexuality and being a bottom, I have become increasingly uncomfortable being her primary romantic and sexual partner. I also feel that my autism and my ability to separate love and sex plays a part in this.

What I long for is to maintain and grow our nesting relationship (and our sex and romantic life) but to not be her primary sexual and to an extent romantic partner.

I would love to know if others feel this way, how they navigate it and for any advice you all might have.