Hi! So I’m looking first advice and input from others to help shape a new and healthy perspective on this.

My wife (married 5 years, together 7) has decided that she wants to remain polyamorous. That it makes her happy as a person and it’s who she has found her new self to be. She always talked about it in the past.

Backstory: it has been my idea to open the marriage 4 times. We are currently on the 4th and it’s going quite well. It’s evolved over the two years we have been doing this. From solo, to swinging, to realizing we prefer solo.

I’m not basically given the choice of making this work with her or divorce. I want her happy. Whether it’s me in the picture or not. I don’t necessarily want the polyamory to stop either. I guess I’m just now nervous and stressed over the new situation. We started off monogamous and I grew up in a very religious household. I have ideologies I’m trying to shake and feelings of possessiveness. I’m confused on my own feelings about it (I go to counseling but don’t have an appt for two weeks).

I can edit this to add if there are any questions. Just looking for input and thoughts from others.