So me and my boyfriend have been dating a few months now, and since starting the relationship I made it clear that I would want it to be a poly relationship, and they said they would be open to it and they still are. We recently decided that we are more secure as a relationship to open up the relationship now.

So hence I was at an event last night with my boyfriend and I was talking to this other guy who my boyfriend has spoken to before but they aren’t overly close. Regardless me and him were really hitting it off and I started thinking about kissing them a lot haha, so I asked my boyfriend how they would feel about me doing so and they said that I could. So I did and it was a great kiss, however it did make my boyfriend a little jealous which obviously I know is normal and I went over to comfort them after a bit and to make sure they were ok.

Now I’m basically planning a date with this guy that I kissed last night for later this week and I’m just asking where they would stand on sexual things, since we spoke about it before and they said it was ok however I want to make the adjustment period as easy as I can. And if that means taking it slower than normal then I will.

However they said that don’t want us to do anything sexual just yet which I respect right now since they are adjusting still, however I’ve made it clear it won’t be a long term thing since I feel that would limit my relationship growth with others. One weird thing is that I’m bisexual and they said if it was a girl they’d feel more likely to let me do stuff which is weird.

Anyways, I was just wondering, is this the best way to ease into it? I do want them to be comfortable but also considering how intense the kisses were last night I can’t say this rule would last too long. And it would be extremely hard to adhere to.

One thing to add is that they say they want to put that rule in place so it makes us special however I have told them multiple times that it’s not going to be someone is more special that anyone else, yeah sure we can have unique things to each relationship like certain tv shows, but not s€x, like that’s kinda a core ingredient in most relationships, especially since I’m quite hypers€xual. They also are scared that me talking to other people means I will try leave them, however I said that is the legit opposite of what I want, firstly I love them a lot why would I leave them unless it was genuine incompatibility and then I want to be poly, I wouldn’t go to someone else to be mono with them 😂. But I know it’s just how their brain is acting rn, they still are happy to carry on being poly, they are just finding it a little new/difficult