Hello! I am J-30's, my partner A-30's have been dating about a year. It's been a lovely connection and I love them very much, more than I think I have loved anyone. We didn't start as primary partners, but have grown in that in the last 6 months. And now we are living together! ❤️

That being said, A has some chronic health problems. More than a few actually, and now I am kind of their caretaker. I don't mind that job at all. Always happy to cook, clean, time meds, massage, pay the bills, all the things. It's very much my nature.

When we met I got to be more of a Dom in our dynamic. That was really fulfilling and important to me. It's still there, but much more rare now that I am present for ALL of the hard days. It's even more challenging that A is seeing a new Dom. They only meet on their more healthy days.

I am feeling like I got swapped out. They only get 5 good days a month and A only spends half of those with me. I have conveyed my feelings, but they got shut down and was accused of trying to limit their other relationship and control their kinks.

It's takes a lot of energy to take care of someone full time, and when there is extra energy... I was hoping to get some back to help fill my cup.