I get together with someone who I've known before (years ago) and we're hitting it off and we both had personal growth and the talking is great and we're on the same polyam page and the intimacy. It's great.

We made a second date. I had to take a raincheck because shark week showed up and was not kind. It was a heating pad kind of day. Nothing was scheduled but we talked on the phone, kept texting.

A couple days of silence goes by. I'll be honest with you, I didn't notice. I'm distracted with work and my (adult) children and bills and my other partners. I don't have a lot of other partners but they do know when my plate is full that they gotta initiate discussion. So I dropped the ball because I didn't communicate that he can always reach out and please don't ever feel slighted if I have a few days of not initiating contact. I do my best but it does happen and I still love to hear from you. So that's on me.

He does reach out, to say it's not gonna work out and wish me the best in life. So ok that's his choice but (1) talk to me about why (2) what happened to us being friends like we discussed?

I'm just in a "well.... shit." mood about it because it was going well. But I guess not. I just feel like a bottle rocket that got lit and I'm watching the fuse burn down and... and... and... and nothing.