I’m not sure if anything wrong is actually happening here, so I’ll lead with that. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a month now. I met her on a Taimi, and while she’s pretty experienced with poly relationship dynamics, I am not.

I haven’t exactly had any issues with it. Any feelings that have come up from me were communicated and my gf did a pretty great job of making sure I was still comfy with all of this. Shes been very patient.

That’s kind of why I feel like shit for feeling the way I do now. For the last week and a half I’d been talking with this other trans girl that lives on the coast a few hours away. We had begun to make plans to see each other when I found out she was also chatting with my girlfriend.

Now, I’d been told at the beginning that everyone is equal and everyone dates separately. So I was kind of confused when my girlfriend laughed it off that they both talked about me and discussed seeing each other as well. Suddenly the girl on the coast has to reschedule and my gf is going to the coast to visit her.

This kind of feels like I’m getting cucked? We’ve briefly spoken about this and my gf pointed out that both of them have a right to choose whoever they want to date, and I respect that, but I don’t necessarily feel equal or anything anymore. I just feel embarrassed.