Hello!

I've been poly for a while now with an NP, who is very much a 'homebody'. While she is perfectly ok with me having other partners over at the condo while she's not there, logistically this can be very challenging. In addition, because the bedroom is equally mine and hers, she wants to keep at least some amount of her own space private and has a 'no partners in the bedroom' rule. Again, challenging because of our living space but I find this perfectly reasonable. In addition, I do feel some guilt about asking my NP to vacate the condo so I can have someone else over.

My building has guest rooms available for rent. A possible workaround is that I can host partners and overnights in the guest room if I don't have the condo to myself. Logistically, this works great and neither of us have problems with this. I have yet to bring up this option with anyone else. My fear is that it might make them feel like 'the other woman' or being hidden, which is something that was brought up to me as a problem when attempting to keep partners *mostly* parallel in small spaces.

How would this make you feel, do you think it's a good solution? What would you do in this situation?