It’s no one person’s fault and everyone should do what is best for them. But…it can suck being a woman when interacting with men. Respectful men still have to step away because of their own needs and self control. And they should if they need to. Green flags can be green flags that hurt me.

But it gets hard that it always comes back to that and I can’t just be a person. It always has a layer of complications. It’s frustrating and lonely. This feels magnified in the ENM/Poly life because even my non-poly male friends have to end friendships because their partners feel like since I’m poly there is a chance I may want their man (which is another rant on it’s own haha).

I had to pause a friendship today because of this. I hope he gets what he needs and is proud he was able to recognize his cure for needs, thankful he communicated them worn a door open instead of ghosting. I’m not angry, I’m just hurt and feel…like a burden or complication. That’s probably partially my abandonment issues, but also…the pattern in my friendships, platonic or otherwise still sucks. That’s it. Just needed to vent.

Update: people have already got comments deleted by Reddit because they are assuming I am acting inappropriately with male friends in mono relationships. 🤣 I’m not easily attracted to men and it’s fascinating and confusing to me that anyone who was actively part of the poly/ENM community would think that is the reason over people assuming that I am a deviant who is out to steal their man simply because they know I am poly.

I’m out as poly and I’m judged by the facet of my life in EVERY facet of my life.