So long story short, wife and I who have been open to polyam for a little over a year have separated. I won't go into massive detail here but I don't think that the polyam is to blame for it, but rather it shone a light on some existing issues with our relationship that at the time of opening up I don't think I even realised we had.

To be clear I don't hate my now ex wife or anything. Despite the arguments we've had that precipitated the split, I don't harbour any ill will towards her and I am hoping that we can be friends at the very least once the dust settles. That said I'm not holding out any hope for anything more than that. I don't think I'll ever stop loving her, she's the mother of my kids and we've a lot of shared history but romantically I don't know how I feel right now and suspect she is very much the same, so I'm shelving this and right now am focusing on building a new life for myself and allowing her to do the same. We're working hard to disentangle our financial situations, and our lives (as much as we can given that we've got kids) and seem to be getting closer and closer to a more amicable relationship again.

I've still got one partner, though there is a distance between us, so I only get to see her every couple of weeks at the moment. She's been incredibly supportive but we've only been together a few months and still very much in the NRE phase of our relationship.

I'm currently living out of a house-share and am looking for a more permanent residence, and am kind of looking forward to the challenge as it occurs to me that I've never lived alone. I do sadly suffer from chronic fatigue, so I'm both worried and excited about this and this typically gets worse during the winter months so I need to get a wriggle on and get myself into some good habits before then.

I got my chronic fatigue as a result of covid which I got 3 years ago after moving up to the North East of England and since the pandemic in general I've just become quite isolated, so unfortunately I don't have a lot of local friends. There don't seem to be many poly/ENM events in my local area either else I'd go to these just to see if I can find some friends. I'm a bit socially awkward and have some neurodiversity issues so have always struggled to make friends.

I'm not much of a drinker and i get overwhelmed by things like night clubs and bars because of the noise and crowds, etc. I do enjoy movies, video games, travel, and my partner has just started getting me into board games (not something I really ever did before, but have been enjoying it).

So I guess I'm looking for two things really, has anyone else been through this and have any words of wisdom for me? and does anyone have any advice about how I can go about making new local friends? Would be nice to have some new people to go places and do things with.