I’m sure this has been asked a thousand times, but I have to ask myself.

My partner of 3 years has told me he’s poly-curious. He’s had other relationships end because he’s caught feelings for other people and it caused tension, leading to breakups. I have been monogamous all my life, but this has been the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in, and likewise for him. We’ve talked a lot about how we both feel and that there is a very real possibility that we might have to break up because we are different people. I’m starting therapy soon, and we’ve been looking into poly friendly couples counseling. We want to try and make it work, but I have fears and insecurities due to being cheated on in past relationships. I want to make an honest effort to try and change my mindset and cope with my fears, but I don’t know if I can change. And if I can’t I need to let him go so he can be happy exploring poly.

For anyone else who has been through this, did it work? Were you able to shift mindsets? Did you become poly? Are you in a mono-poly relationship? Or are we destined to break up and just be friends. Neither of us want that, but we agree we shouldn’t have to make sacrifices just to stay together