My wife and I are married since 5years together since 6years. We were in a conservative church, married fast without having sex before the marriage. Since 2 years we are deconstructing and left church half a year ago.

We both would say that we are strong in communication. Our sex is good, i sometimes want it more frequently and am generally more interested in trying new stuff, but overall I’d give it a 9/10, my wife probably even likes it more than me, but isn’t horny as often as I am 😂

We’re talking about opening our relationship since maybe 4-5months with concrete people in our head. She is more interested in a second relationship with the same rights as ours. I am more into FWB but also with not too many people (like maybe a max of 2-3).

Two weeks ago she told her crush (one of my closest friends, single since 5months) about us opening our marriage and how she is interested in him. He is still in the process of wrapping his head around what he wants, if he could imagine being part of a polycule, but they’re already making out with kissing/cuddling/hugging.

For me that’s like 90% fine, my insecurities pop up from time to time, they’re mostly me being afraid, that he will get her to be more sexually open to new stuff and that I will be asking myself, if I am good the way I am and why he gets sth. don’t get from her. But I know that this is just in my head, that she loves me the way I am and that I am me and have my qualities and he is someone else and has other qualities.

On the one hand I think it all goes too fast and we 3 should discuss more about what we want, need, wish for, what our limits and insecurities are.

Just present my your thoughts on our situation :)

Thank you