I (43M) really enjoy the attention that comes from meeting new people on apps and IRL. Honestly, it feels like a high. The problem is coming down off that high — I’m not very good at it.

I love the feeling that comes when I match with someone and start chatting, sending pics and vids and sharing fantasies. But when I put away my phone so I can go back into family life, I find myself still craving it.

My wife (43) is great and I love her very much. She’s supportive and overall we have a very good marriage. But she’s not into sexting or sharing pics. Dirty talk is off the table and sex for us is probably once or twice a week – less than I would prefer.

I have found myself starting to pick fights and have unrealistic expectations from my wife. I’m trying to get from her the same thing I get from these new connections. And it’s unrealistic and unfair.

What I want is to be able to turn off that part of my brain. The part that is craving the attention and affection I get from online connections and dates I go on. Would love some advice if you have it.