I’m new to the Poly/Open lifestule Im with 2 amazing women called V & A

After a few (sometimes awkward) convos we determined that I’m dating V full fledged but im NOT dating A but we DO have a physical relationship as well. (I adore A! We are like besties with benefits lol)

I am VERY happy and enjoying this new dynamic and journey.

That being said I’m human and learning new things about myself…the ONLY time I get jealous of A is when I think about the fact that she’s been able to be apart of V’s life for longer than me, it’s an adjustment not being the “primary” I guess bc I fully recognize that I am NOT on equal footing as A? Lol

They have a beautiful relationship and one of the things I love most about V is how she loves A and I’ve said this to her.

Let me be clear I AM THRILLED BEING IN THIS OPEN/POLY STYLE OF DATING. It feels so natural and easy (even if it’s not perfect)

I’ve already talked to V about my nerves about the fact that since they’re a couple and I’m “just the “addition”” there’s a chance that if this goes bad IM the one with a bigger risk of being “abandoned” which triggers anxiety bc I don’t WANT that to happen.

While I’m totally fine being in this situation and hopefully one day in the future a GF (yes we’ve had this talk as well) here’s my issue today…

Last Night, V mentioned another person J wanting to take her on a date. I’ve KNOWN that she still goes on her dating apps (we’ve literally gone through each others and helped each other pick people) this is the first time since we’ve started dating someone is ACTUALLY tryna take her out and it immediately made me bothered.

I’m notorious for overthinking so idk I’m being sensitive but it hit differently than I thought it would knowing she’s gonna see ANOTHER person. She immediately asked me if I was sad about and I immediately said “no” and said things to reassure her bc I don’t wanna come across as a hypocrite or give her a reason to leave me for not being a good additional partner in this open relationship

NOTE: V wants me to communicate with her. She literally said “you would talk to me if you felt a type of way, right?” And I WANT to but bc this situation is so new and as the “secondary” I feel the most at risk and I don’t wanna ruin it I’m SCARED.

I hope this makes sense but any advice on how to bring this up?? Please be kind with your approach I’m LEARNING so if I’ve said anything incorrectly just educate me don’t berate me.