There have been a wild amount of posts in the last couple of days from folks who think polyam does all sorts of things it doesn’t do.

Polyam doesn’t protect you from things like abuse and isolation.

I spent years thinking I sucked and I was terrible and useless while being polyam.

It didn’t protect me from financial and emotional manipulation. Didn’t keep me from being a single mom, or getting cancer twice.

Didn’t stop my divorce.

Polyam didn’t protect me from physical and emotional abuse in my marriage, either.

It didn’t fix my family of origin. Or heal my trauma.

Polyam didn’t cause that stuff, either.

Polyam won’t change anything about your life.

You’ll still have the same miserable, broken marriage. The same mental health issues and trauma.

You will still be you. And if those things get fixed, you did it. Polyam did not.

I’m wildly happy in polyam. I love my partners and my kid and my life.

But polyam isn’t a magic wand. It fixes nothing.

Edit: The most important part!

Happy polyam people! (And unhappy ones!)

What things in your life did polyam NOT fix?