I’m new to poly and have 1 partner that I’m currently having sex with. We got together after full std panels outside window periods so have been having unprotected sex. He’s adding another partner and while he did ask her to test, they’re having more of a casual connection than relationship. I’m feeling like the safer way for me to proceed is to use condoms, but I’m feeling a bit heartbroken over using condoms because, well to be honest, I hate how condoms feel. Can anyone help me reframe my hatred of condoms? Does anyone have a partner they don’t use condoms with but do use condoms with others? Does anyone rely on really excellent communication and testing instead of condoms? I’m thinking if my partner and this other person’s connection becomes less casual, maybe if we all have good communication and trust, maybe someday I’d feel more comfortable not using them at some point. And how do you stop freaking out about all the things that condoms don’t prevent?