I am in my second poly dynamic so I'm still learning a lot. First one was easy, but none of us worked out. Now I've moved on and I have been seeing Dom A for a few months and we have a good connection. I met Dom B ofla. I had just lost a dom due to his cheating so I hadn't planned to look for anyone. Met Dom B out of no where and we were solely friends. I'm not sure when but something clicked and we both ended up seeing something in each other that feels like it should be explored. I told my dom about him as soon as I started having feelings. We have tried discussing how to move forward as my dom is struggling with his emotions. He's become insecure and I'm not sure why, besides he had 1 bad experience, which I fully understand. He thinks I'm just going to push him aside as even now he states he hasn't felt left out. They do nothing but clash every time we try to have a conversation about moving forward. It's pretty much to a point of having to pick and I don't want to do that. I have put too much time and effort into both to have to do this. They both provide things I need and want but not if they were solo. I also, know I can just walk away from both, but again I have put a lot into both.

I am out of ideas on how to move things forward in a healthy manner and I don't know many people who see in any way at a level to help. Any tips and/or advice would be super helpful. It has definitely effected all 3 of us separately.